• Colin Huntley



Consistency is a powerful word. It has no stipulations of emotional preparedness, desire, or motivation. Consistency is not a dependent, but a wildly independent idea that finds a way to get the job done come hell or high water. Its impetus is not inspiration, but decision.


Decision making is a lesser known virtue, something we don't do a great job at acknowledging the significance and meaning of. We think that our problems come from not doing what we say we're going to do. The problem is actually that we actually always do what what we decide we're going to do.


When we decide we'll go to the gym in the morning, but end up hitting the snooze button five times and skipping, the decision was never actually to go to the gym in the morning. It's what we said, but a our decision was actually, I will go to the gym in the morning if I feel up to it. We rarely do what we say we'll do. We always do what we decide we'll do.


So perhaps our motivations are pipe dreams, not really capable of improving. But the quality of decision making - now that could and should be improved wildly!


To help you become a better decision maker, a consistency developer, rather than a goal setter, here's a consistency model. It will help you cross-examine the things you want to make consistent in your life.


EXAMPLE:


1. Consistency: Keep calories to 2,000 a day, 5 days a week:


PROS:

- I've done it before, so I know I'm capable.

- Regulates energy

- Keeps me looking good, which makes it easier to be comfortable being my real self


CONS:

- Sometimes I want more food


(If your pros outweigh your cons, you can be sure that it's something you want more than you don't).


How can I support this consistency in my life?

- Fasting until 12pm every day, no exceptions.

- Splurges are fine, but keep them to 1 serving

- Grocery shop for success

- Veggies/Fruit galore



Consistency is a goal's older, wiser brother. If you can learn how to develop consistency in your life, by making thoroughly developed decisions, the quality of your life will drastically improve, and quickly at that.

  • Colin Huntley



I do not know how you have been dealing with the COVID-19 situation. As for me, my mood has been ebbing and flowing, and it's probably safe to assume you have been experiencing similar ups and downs.


For the most part, I have felt positive. Things will work out. We'll be okay. And then, like clockwork, once I have fully come to peace with the situation, there is a new article with a new reason as to why I should scared. I've been wondering why this situation has been so unstable for my psyche. It occurred to me why this morning; Basically every problem I've ever had has been a personal problem, and COVID-19 is far from a personal problem.


The kind of problems I've faced are not trivial, not unimportant, but they have been different. For the most part, they have been problems solvable through perseverance, determination, and grit - personal responsibility. Whether relational, financial, physical, or mental, all of my problems have been the responsibility of me to fix, and me alone - personal problems. As I reflected on what makes me afraid about COVID-19, I narrowed it down to a couple of things.


The first fear is watching the news and hearing about how many of my neighbors are dying or suffering. I'm terrified of the images I may see on the news of people in hospital beds, or graphic verbal accounts of horrific hospital stories, knowing all of that is happening in my back yard.


The second thing I'm terrified of is the economic fallout of this country in the wake of COVID-19. I imagine riots in the street, politicians maliciously capitalizing on the chaos, and a deep dark economic depression that will characterize the better part of my 20's and 30's.


If they only saw things like I do, we would all be handling this better and things would be okay.


I've been scheming ways to contract the perfect word cocktail to inspire everybody to work together and take care of one another. Maybe, I thought, if I could just figure out how to explain the way I feel in just the right way, it will go viral and everyone will agree. Maybe my blog will land on the desktops of world leaders and inspire them to do things the way I think they need to be done. Maybe everyone will read what I have to say, and because of it, they'll stop panic buying, and fear mongering, and then none of these things I'm afraid of will materialize.


In times like this, where the actions and mood of the masses are the only factors that separate you from your fears, it's hard not to want to change and fix people to see things the way you do. There is only one way to find some peace: Fully accept people as they are. I can't change people. They are as they are and will do what they do like air is invisible, and the sun is hot.


The irony is being at peace with your cause, without the need to prove it worthy is the best way to be influential. Wanting to change how everyone is reacting, or mitigate their responses and behavior comes from a place of fear and uncertainty. Acceptance of people as they often are - cheaters, liars, thieves, and schemers, comes from a place of certainty and peace. Funny enough, as people pick up on this sort of spirit in you, they begin to think you're on to something, and listen to what you have to say. This kind of spirit is what leaders are made of.


Most of us want to fix things. We all have a well intended, but naive idea that we may have the one unique perspective that will set the world in order again. We don't. We can only lead by example. The best way to tackle this situation, which is oh so much bigger than any single one of us is to accept reality for what it is. It's a big problem, much bigger, and more out of our control than the personal problems we are accustomed to facing. If we can accept that, we can work towards peace. Otherwise, we'll spend our lives trying to treat the world's problem like a personal problem, and forever come up short trying to fix it.







There is no function of humanity more powerful than speech, the ability to think and articulate clearly and powerfully. Throughout history, when tragedy and injustice struck, we have seen the words of articulate men and women inspire the best in people in ways that mere rationality and science could not. Science is powerful, but speech is power itself.


A hopeful human being is unstoppable beyond measure. A hopeful human being is incomparably creative and innovative. He/She is able and competent in the most dire and complicated of situations. An inspired and hopeful individual holds a transcendent power to rise above. Nothing inspires these qualities in the masses like powerful speech and written word.


In an effort to inspire, I have comprised a list of some of the most powerful quotes of history that were the impetus for change, perseverance, and overcoming, as well as some personal favorites. I believe these mantras maintain universal and timeless truths that we can rely upon today, tomorrow, and forever.


"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." - Franklin D. Roosevelt


"If life were predictable, it would cease to be life, and without flavor." - Eleanor Roosevelt


"It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light." - Aristotle


"Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom." - Marilyn Ferguson


"We suffer more in imagination than in reality" - Seneca


"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present" - Marcus Aurelius


"Fear is a friend who's misunderstood" - John Mayer


"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." - Mark Twain


"Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." - Yoda


"Just keep in mind: the more we value things outside of our control, the less control we have." - Epictetus


"Failure and deprivation are the best educators and purifiers." - Albert Einstein


A common theme amongst all of these quotes from some of the greatest thinkers and leaders of history is this: Mankind is made to conquer hardship. This Coronavirus might be novel, but what isn't novel is the temptation to resort to anger, bitterness, and resentment as a byproduct of fear, and the treasure awaiting those who resist this temptation. Fear is meant to be mastered.


When every man, woman, and child on Earth is under threat by a common enemy, we have an unprecedented opportunity to work together, to be on the same team for once, all of us. May this virus be the impetus for brother and sisterhood globally. May it renew our faith in one another. May we remember just how much we have overcome as a human race, and resort not to fear, but to courage. May we dance with fear so to show it how little power it has over us.


I believe in us. We've overcome bigger things.